The emotional backup
Do you feel used at times? Like an emotional backup?
Sometimes i do... and i don't exactly like that feeling.
When the going is good,i do not exist.I could be anything, anywhere, another insignifiant thread that makes up life. But when faced with adversity, i become relevant? i become an anchor to shore issues? To listen/ to advice..
...much like that invertor at home.
No power, switch on the invertor. Else, it is just another device that gathers dust in some confine, till power goes off.
Unfortunately, i am not an invertor. I am a human being who can think and react. Makes things a lot more complicated. And makes me wonder how people treat relationships with so much objectivity- like it is another device that helps you get through life- with an on/ off switch!
Dinah Shore said " Trouble is part of your life, and if you don't share it, you don't give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough". Personally, i think the measure of a relationship is not how much they share during adversity, i think it is how much you share when nothing of significance is happening in each others lives.
THAT, is the true measure of a relationship. And i think some of mine score on a negative scale on this!!
7 comments:
That's an amazing quote...does make a lot of sense! Been there and been used, and probably there are people who feel used by me too...going to call up one of those ppl now! Thanks!
The "feeling-a-bit-taken-for-granted" thingy you mean?
Yeah... it exists. And all of us do a bit of it to each other.
Hope the weekend cheers you up.
Have been in similar situations. I just understood it as, I was most required than anyone; during that situation to people who used me. Just another vantage point of looking at this.
I so agree with you. About sharing when nothing of significance is happening. In adversity, you would anyway turn to the person you take for granted.
Starry: yes.I know the reverse works as well. I owe a call to some people too.
Jean: Hmmm... same thing wonly.
Anon: All of us have i guess. Sometimes that logic does not match up. Hence this post.
MFT: true that..and yes. sometimes the greatest thing that we can share and enjoy is silence.
hugs. have the rains reached you yet?
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