Monday, June 7, 2010

Of living and dying

We have fish at home.
Nothing surprising here, except, this is in a brand new fish tank!!!(Nitya, are you reading this??)

So what do they have in relation to the heading??

They came home 2 weeks ago. After 2 weeks , we were down to 5 fishes from the 12 we started with. So then, logically, one is forced to respond to questions about death. So one explains about growing up and old age and death etc..They make very interesting conversation snippets, trust me.. some of them go like this..

V to my mom: How old are you ammamma?
Mom: 50 ++
V: You and muttassa will die when you are 71.
Mom: What? how do you know?
V: I know *with that all knowing look*

V to me: When i become big and you become small( heh!, we still have not got over this one), i will spank your bum.
Me: Bwahaha, i will not become small again, i will only become bigger( literally!) and older.
V: When you become older, will you die?
Me: Err, umm, yes. Everyone dies after some time.
V: I don't like that. I will be very sad.
...at which stage, we change topics!!

V to me: Amma, when you become 100 years old, will you die?
Me: I really hope so. I don't want to live till 100. That will be really old.
V: Why? Will you be so big you cannot fit inside the house?
Me. No i will be so old, i will not be able to walk or stand. And also, you will be 70 by then, like, XYZ's grandpa?
V: *Thinks very hard* Will i be old like muttassa?
Me: Yes, you will.
V: I don't want to have white hair, he has all white hair. I don't want to be 70.

V: When will i become old?
Me: When you are 70 years..
V: I want to be 36( the father's age)
Me: You have so much to do before that...you will become 15, then 17, then finish school( he does not object to this), then 18 , after which you can drive a car( he does not object to this either), Then go to college,( No objection), then find a job( objects vehemently!!!), find a girlfriend...
V: Stop stop, why do i need a girlfriend?
Me: Like how acha has amma, you also need someone. To love, to stay with, to take care. That is why you need a girlfriend.
V: I do not want a girlfriend* very angry*
Me: then who will you stay with?
V: I will stay with you, i like you a lot.I like your hands, i like your nose, i like you full. I will only stay with you.

At that point people, i melted into a puddle. The rest of the conversation does not matter!

As a bonus, here is the humble fishtank that has triggered such intense discussions in this household...









10 comments:

Nino's Mum June 7, 2010 at 5:00 PM  

awww for the last conversation!

Jean June 7, 2010 at 5:43 PM  

Forget the part about the girlfriend, you may still survive. But for God's sake (and yours too) don't make the mistake I did - happened to mention that when he grows up, he will get a baby. What confounded loving thought led me to say this - is not relevant. I think I said this a year ago. The little fella still repeats it to everyone he encounters. To say I'd like to vanish when this happens, would be an understatement.

;)

A journey called Life June 7, 2010 at 5:54 PM  

loved the fish tank and the convo's.. with special mention to the last one.

nitya June 7, 2010 at 7:27 PM  

Yes, I am reading, I am reading. Yay for the fish! You know the first ones always die - they will pull through when you give up on them. Now they are just dying because you love them so much.
And double yay for a sensitive son!

starry eyed June 8, 2010 at 8:40 AM  

The Universe seems to be conspiring with my kids...the pressure to get a fish bowl/aquarium is mounting!!!

Beautiful pics and touching conversations. Esp loved "I like you full". Please frame it or something!

Leo June 8, 2010 at 12:26 PM  

Thoroughly enjoyed this conversation...I mean thoroughly....so cute to see almost all kids go through this confusion in their childhood (am yet to get over with it)..

p.s: fish tank luks jazzy ;)

Anonymous June 8, 2010 at 12:26 PM  

Thoroughly enjoyed this conversation...I mean thoroughly....so cute to see almost all kids go through this confusion in their childhood (am yet to get over with it)..

In love with my life June 8, 2010 at 2:49 PM  

NM: Aww indeed.Haven't felt this wanted after I was proposed.

Jean: Now that you forewarn me, i shall resist making such mentions. Embarrassment started early when he told a flight full of people and some strangers elsewhere how old his parents are.. with that OMG!! expression.

In love with my life June 8, 2010 at 2:53 PM  

AJCL: They are so peaceful,i sit with morning chai and watch them.And conversations- i am sure you have a few of these yourself as well, right?I can't read your blog BTW:(

Nitya: I figure that now. Everytime one dies, he tells me" i am sad amma", and wants to touch it before we throw the dead one out.

In love with my life June 8, 2010 at 2:55 PM  

Starry: As someone who took one cautious step, i can tell- please get fishes. Completely worth it. And bangy has soe real nice places to get fish from. My sis got herself one too..Div and dhruv will love them.

Leo: I hear you. How one wishes growing up was optional right?? I could have done without reality and lived in confusion as well:-)